It started out as a whisper—a gentle nudge trying to form words in my head. And finally it became a question: what do I need from this day?
In the midst of thinking about work projects, my Christmas to-do list, baking, and last-minute school projects that still to be organized for the kids, I felt a restlessness stirring in my soul. A feeling of not being grounded.
To stop, ask the question and either write the answer or ponder it throughout the day, has been the hearth to my cold wintry bones.
I’ve been trying many different journal writing techniques over the last few months—everything from writing letters, free-writing, dialoging and list-making, but to simply ask one of these five questions has been the most nourishing of all.
What do I need from this day?
What does this day need from me?
What is one thing I can do today that will bring me joy?
What is one small step that I can take in the next few days to bring me closer to where I want to be?
In the midst of a season that places endless demands on our time, taking a few moments to check in with the true emotions behind the chatter in our heads is to receive a gift of renewal.
These past couple of weeks have been particularly difficult following the death of a close friend’s little girl. I’ve been feeling numb, as though none of it is real, and have lost all interest in Christmas celebrations. My normal response would be to write, but right now I don’t know what to write.
So today I took this question to my computer: What do I need from this day? And I free-wrote for ten minutes, trying to reconnect with everyday life.
It certainly wasn’t my best writing—but it didn’t have to be. In fact it started with single words because nothing more would come. But even those few words helped frame my day and think about what I could put out into the universe that would connect me to the people around me instead of keeping me in that detached place.
I find that when I meet myself in that place of heart connection I discover thoughts and emotions I barely knew were there. I realize my need for quiet, for conversation and to be around nature.
What about you? What do you need right now from this day? From this season that can bring joy but also feelings of being overwhelmed and exhausted?
Which of these questions best fits your life today?