“Change is not dependent on the clock, it is dependent on our desire to implement it.” (tweet that)
For three years now I have been part of OneWord365. This community, founded by Alece Ronzino, encourages people to forget about New Year’s Resolutions and just choose one word to live into on for an entire year.
Now, I was always someone who loved New Year’s resolutions. At the beginning of January I would become all giddy like a school girl for possibilities and fresh starts. I’d take out my journal and write my list of things I hoped to achieve that year. Things like take an art class, spend more time with friends, volunteer at ____, and the usual “lose ten pounds.”
But come February I would wish I’d never begun the process. I’d always wind up feeling mad at myself for giving up, or for settling back into old habits. I’d adopt the underachiever mentality.
What I didn’t account for in my list-making was that despite my excitement for the new year and my love of fresh starts, just because I ditch one calendar in favour of a crisp blank new one, it doesn’t mean the slate is clean and all my habits and challenges are gone.
It just means a new year has come.
A New Year’s Resolution is simply the idea of starting afresh and setting some goals, but every day is an opportunity to start anew. Yet we wait. We wait for a new calendar year or school term before we can being to implement change. Or we wait for a certain circumstance to change, believing we are powerless until it does.
But change is not dependent on the clock, it is dependent on our desire to implement it, and no amount of lists or blank calendars can do that job for us. Change cannot come from the outside in; it can only come from the inside out (tweet that.)
It can take a long time to realize this. So often I fall back into old habits and find myself waiting for something to change before I can change. But since becoming part of the OneWord community and just focusing on one word for the year, change has been more manageable. If I choose my word well it helps to give me focus and strength throughout the year—long past the February blues of under-achievement.
My word for 2014 was Presence. I chose it because when I reflected on the previous year, I had a sense of time slipping away from me and struggling to enjoy the many wonderful things that were happening in my life. I always wanted to race ahead instead of just savouring the moment.
Presence seemed to be a word that would fit every situation. If I felt anxious or worried, being present would take away that stress; if I felt impatient for something to happen, being present would ground me, and if I was trying to multi-task, remembering to be present would help me to enjoy just one task at a time.
I have chosen the word Rise as my one word for 2015. For me this word applies in my both my relationships and my business goals.
In my relationships I want to rise into giving more of myself and my time—rising to the occasion when others need me. And in my business, it’s time to rise into being exactly who I am and doing all that I am capable of, without holding back.
Rising means being brave and believing in myself. It’s an exciting challenge.
Choosing your one word
We may only be two days away from a new year but you still have plenty of time to think about your one word. Remember, you don’t have to wipe the slate clean on January 1st. Instead I encourage you to journal around these three questions:
1. What area of my life have I most neglected this year?
2. What is one area of my self-growth that I need to lean into more?
3. What possibilities lie ahead for me in 2015?
Once you’ve given some thought to these questions, write down as many empowering words as you can think of that relate to your answers. It is likely that one or two of them will pop out and really resonate with you. When you get the goosebumps like I did, you’ll know you have your word for the year.
Some One Word examples
When you have your word please share below in the comments. I’d love to hear!