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"Your life is not a problem to be solved but a gift to be opened." ~ Wayne Muller

Why You Need A Vision Not a Dream

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“Live your vision and demand your success.” ― Steve Maraboli

Do you ever feel like your dreams are out of reach? Like time is passing by faster than you can keep up, and the dreams that once seemed so clear have become a little blurred around the edges?

I’ve let go of many a dream—like the one I had of singing on Broadway. And the one where I sailed through art college as a hippie designer.

I told myself those dreams were out of reach. I’ve always tended towards the most competitive fields in life, and knowing that millions of others out there had the same dream was far too intimidating.

So I let go. That easily. I decided others had more talent and I allowed those dreams to dissolve into could-have-beens but probably-never-would-have-beens.

I took “the more sensible route.” The one where I wouldn’t face too much rejection or have to push my way to the front of the line.

And that’s when I began to dream just a little less.

The Seed of a Dream

Everyone needs a dream—that image of something better to look forward to, the hope of a life in which we live fully and with joy. For some people that might look like climbing to the top of the career ladder; for others it might be becoming a missionary on the other side of the world. Our dreams are the places in which we shine.

Dreams empower us to move forward in life (tweet that!) Even if that dream is just to climb out of a crappy situation. It’s when we stop dreaming that life becomes stale and we lose hope. We’re only good with the status quo for a short period of time. And then we want change.« Continue »

How Are You Using Your Words?

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For the past year or so I’ve been helping a friend through some pretty rough times. She’s been in and out of treatment centres for alcohol abuse and self-harm and her mental health has really suffered as a result.

Whenever we’ve been able to meet for coffee or talk on the phone I’ve felt like I’m scooping a baby bird with a damaged wing into my arms. She feels so broken. So fragile.

I would like to be able to rescue her, but all I can do is come alongside her as a friend, because there’s so much that’s out of my control. So much where others must step in. And so much she has to do for herself.

Sometimes when we meet her hair is glossy, she’s wearing lipstick and I catch the faint sent of perfume around my tea-cup. She tells me she’s hopeful and things are better. That she’s reading and praying and God is good.

Other times, her hair is lank and unbrushed. Her colourless face stares into space and I feel an invisible wall separating us. She tells me her life will always be like this, that it always has been, so how could things ever be different?

And I ask about her words. “How are you using your words?”« Continue »

Ten Soul-Feeding Quotes On Writing (and Life)

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You know how some words just get you through a day? How they can be all you need to turn things around and give you a fresh perspective? I collect them now. On Pinterest. Yep. I have a board called “Words to live by,” and when I’m having a bad day I put my feet […]

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5 Ways to Know if You’re Ready to Write Your Story

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Do you have a story that’s aching to be told but just aren’t sure if you’re ready? Or, do your fears around hurting loved ones stop you from writing at all? Writing your story is no easy task. It comes with complex issues such as reliving uncomfortable experiences and potentially hurting the people we love; and that’s […]

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