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"Your life is not a problem to be solved but a gift to be opened." ~ Wayne Muller

Why Do You Do What You Do?

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“Lost.” That’s how I would have described myself seven years ago.

I wasn’t writing—or at least, not publicly—and I wasn’t growing. I felt like I didn’t know who I was or where I was going. I seemed to be drifting without purpose.

I was in a very intense period in my life; the kind that involves diapers, playdates, sleepless nights and throw-up. My focus was on motherhood. And perhaps being so intensely focused on motherhood brought me to a place where I lost sight of myself.

I loved being a mum, but I couldn’t remember who I was outside of that role. Or if I’d ever known at all. The “Who I am” and “Why I am” was a mystery, and I just didn’t know how to find the missing pieces.

I think we all come to the point in our journey, where we long to discover our purpose (tweet that). That is, unless our purpose has been clearly etched on our soul since we were knee-high.

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How Writing Your Story Can Help You Forgive


We had just been listening to a newscast when the topic of forgiveness came up. The story was one of those that that has your heart aching with sympathy for the bereaved parent. A story about a murdered teenager, used and left with no regard for the value of her life.

For those who knew her it wasn’t just another story; it had become their story.

That’s when my friend said, “I could never forgive someone who did that to my child.”

I responded with a vague hmmm, aware of the fact that forgiveness is a megatheme within my faith—a faith she doesn’t share—and a pretty big deal when it comes to writing your story.

We didn’t go further into the discussion, although I wanted to. I wanted to talk about how living with anger and hatred towards a person can eat you alive and become an overbearing weight under which we fall and lose sight of our true selves.

And I pondered the forgiveness “debate” for a few days afterwards, asking myself whether full forgiveness is really possible in the face of great pain and loss at the hands of another human being.

For some of us, that’s our story.

And for those who haven’t suffered greatly at the hands of another, most of us know that at some point we have grappled with the act of forgiveness.

Or we may still need to.

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Write and Believe you are Worth it

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My baby clung to me and I clung to her. Natural and right, that’s how it felt in those early months, that first year. But time went by and neither of us let go. When she was two years old we hired a babysitter so I could have time to write, but my daughter did [...]


Six Steps to Reel in Toxic Thinking

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I met Dr. Caroline Leaf —a neuroscientist with a PhD in Communication Pathology specializing in Neuropsychology—about six months ago at a women’s conference. She’s a smart lady—you might want to look her up. Her title alone had me shifting in my seat. Dr. Leaf had been invited to the conference to talk about the power of thought and [...]


How I Wrote my Way Through the Grief of Loss

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“I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn.”  ― Anne Frank I have always enjoyed writing – college term papers and professional technical papers that described specific goals and outcomes – hand-written letters to my family or my sweetheart during long deployments at sea. Writing was functional; merely [...]


10 Ways to Ease Depression With Only Your Pen

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If you’ve been with me on this journey for a while you’ll know that one of my lifetime struggles has been with depression. It took a long time for me to identify with that part of my story, and then again, to admit it out loud. In fact, as I write this, I’m cringing a little. [...]