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"Your life is not a problem to be solved but a gift to be opened." ~ Wayne Muller

5 Ways to Know if You’re Ready to Write Your Story


Do you have a story that’s aching to be told but just aren’t sure if you’re ready?

Or, do your fears around hurting loved ones stop you from writing at all?

Writing your story is no easy task. It comes with complex issues such as reliving uncomfortable experiences and potentially hurting the people we love; and that’s aside from the writing process itself.

So how do you know when you are ready, and is a memoir always the best way to share?

Here are five ways to know if it’s time for you to put pen to paper:« Continue »

How to Quiet Your Inner Critic


I don’t know about you but my inner critic shows up on a regular basis.

Probably daily in one way or another.

If I was little better at recognizing her, I would kick her to the curb before she could whisper her venomous words. But she’s good, and she’s been around for a long time, so she quite often sneaks up on me unknown.

When she’s on a roll she can be rather cruel:

“Do you actually think that piece of writing is any good?”

“You look like crap today.”

“You’re a terrible mother.”

It was this same inner critic that held me back from writing for 15 years, who told me I shouldn’t even attempt to write because I couldn’t possibly meet the standards set by any other author out there.« Continue »

On Writing Memoir: Where to Begin

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I have a writing partner who is dear to me. We send writing to one another bi-weekly and in the off weeks we critique one another’s work via Skype. I put a lot of trust in this relationship. I must—she is literally holding my story in the palm of her hand. Sometimes our words are messy: raw, vulnerable [...]


How 15 Minutes Per Day Can Change Your Life


How did life become so full? How did it get to the point where we feel like there just aren’t enough hours in the day to do anything really really well? We have become expert multi-taskers (which, by the way, apparently makes your brain smaller) but in the process we aren’t giving our full selves to [...]


Why Do You Do What You Do?

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“Lost.” That’s how I would have described myself seven years ago. I wasn’t writing—or at least, not publicly—and I wasn’t growing. I felt like I didn’t know who I was or where I was going. I seemed to be drifting without purpose. I was in a very intense period in my life; the kind that involves diapers, [...]


How Writing Your Story Can Help You Forgive


We had just been listening to a newscast when the topic of forgiveness came up. The story was one of those that that has your heart aching with sympathy for the bereaved parent. A story about a murdered teenager, used and left with no regard for the value of her life. For those who knew her [...]