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"Your life is not a problem to be solved but a gift to be opened." ~ Wayne Muller

When You Realize You Are Enough

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Do you ever feel a tiny bit sick right before you hit the “publish” button?

Do you find yourself wondering what did I just do? after you share your words?

I do.

Maybe it’s because the words I share offer a window into my soul. Sometimes I wonder if sharing these words is a bit like undressing in front of that window. Why would I do that?

Thought Catalog recently published an article describing hell for each individual Meyers Briggs personality-type. Its description of my INFP hell made me laugh and cringe: “Your deepest thoughts and feelings are exposed to a large audience and everyone thinks that you’re pathetic and unoriginal.” Of course it is.

Why? Why do I feel the need to share my words? Why do I write about my deepest thoughts and feelings? Maybe it would be safer to write about food instead.

I like food, maybe I even love it. But most days food is not what I need to write about.

Sharing my words is hard sometimes. I don’t always like the emotions that crop up after I share. Sometimes I’ve wondered if I even should be sharing. What if I just can’t handle the aftermath?

But the good things in life rarely come easily, do they? Just because being a mom is hard and I sometimes don’t like my emotions when the kids are fighting and glitter has spilled all over the floor, doesn’t mean that I am a bad mother or that I shouldn’t be one.

Sharing my words is hard because vulnerability is hard.

But writing and sharing with vulnerability helps me to own my story. It helps me to embrace the messy and the light. They go together. Sometimes we need the messy part of sharing words to discover the light underneath (tweet that!)« Continue »

Why Keeping A Gratitude List Will Change Your Life

“Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” 
― William Arthur Ward

Practicing gratitude can radically change our lives. It can help eliminate stress, give us a fresh perspective, and anchor us in the present moment.

It’s such a simple thing to do, yet we can become so consumed with the next thing on our list we need to achieve, that we forget to stop and be grateful for what we already have. And most of the time, what we have right now is what we need for the season we are in (tweet that!)

When was the last time you stopped and thought of all the things in your life you are grateful for?

Perhaps it was recently. But let me ask you, does your gratitude list look very similar every time you do the tally?

For me it has become a passing, almost subconscious thought—a general kind of “yeah yeah, I have it pretty good and I’m blessed.” But when it’s not a conscious, right under my nose sense of appreciation, I’m embarrassed to say I don’t feel it deep to the core.

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You may well be familiar with Ann Voskamp’s work on gratitude. Her book One Thousand Gifts has done exceptionally well worldwide, with just one simple challenge to readers: to dare to live fully in the present through acknowledging the many gifts around us, via a daily gratitude journal.

Ann counted gifts all the way up to one thousand over the course of a year and it literally changed her life.

After reading One Thousand Gifts I made a commitment to end every journal entry I wrote with a list of five things I was grateful for.

At first I would write the more obvious things such as, my health, my kids, my home. But after several days of repeating this same list, I realized the exercise wasn’t fostering gratitude in my heart. The items I listed were too big; they weren’t slowing me down and encouraging me to look at the blessings right in front of me.

They weren’t anchoring me in the present moment.« Continue »

Why Do You Write?

Why do you write? The hope for money, or fame, or a large following, didn’t start the words boiling in your blood. So what did? What do you need to write about? What are those words that fester in your soul and won’t let you alone? The ideas or stories working their way through your gut, needing […]

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Is There a Time and a Place for Authenticity?

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Is there a time and a place to be authentic? I ask this question because a while ago I published an article on Tiny Buddha titled Why Being Real Matters More The Being the Best. It was all about how social media gives license to people to be inauthentic because they are tucked away behind a screen—literally. And […]

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